The Fear Of Being Better

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We can’t get better until we’re no longer afraid of being better.

Being better means changing our minds. It means having the courage to admit we were wrong. To be humble enough to apologize. Bold enough to say no. Free enough to say yes. It means being open to new thoughts, multiple perspectives, new ways of doing things. Being better takes innovation, creative thinking, and clear communication.

We can’t get better until we’re no longer afraid of being better.

Being better means quitting jobs, moving house, leaving relationships, putting cookies down. It means being willing to be uncomfortable. Being better means paying more attention to our own actions than we do to the actions of others. It requires a sense of integrity and demands personal responsibility.

We can’t get better until we’re no longer afraid of being better.

Being better means learning lessons and behaving gracefully. It means keeping our opinions to ourselves while speaking our truth with wisdom and compassion. It requires a gentle, loving language. Being better means looking for peaceful resolution. It requires an end to whatever story of anger or betrayal you currently have on repeat.

We can’t get better until we’re no longer afraid of being better.

Being better means not hiding behind excuses or lies. It means facing yourself in the mirror and owning every choice you make. Being better means not lashing out, not calling names, not abusing or withholding, repressing or revenging – yourself or anyone else.

We can’t get better until we’re no longer afraid of being better.

Being better means giving yourself permission to know you deserve better. From family members, co-workers, acquaintances and friends. It means knowing they deserve better from you as well. Being better means taking no shit and giving no fucks while doing no harm.

We can’t get better until we’re no longer afraid of being better.

Being better means not blaming or judging. It means crawling out from under the weight of guilt and shame. It means having the courage to let go of pain, grief, anger, and frustration. It means forgiving others, forgiving yourself, accepting the heart-felt apologies of those who hurt you, and moving on if an apology is not forthcoming. Being better means not being afraid of walking away from anyone or anything that doesn’t want to be better, too.

We can’t get better until we’re no longer afraid of being better.

Being better means understanding your behavior is your choice. It means acknowledging that if your mouth is the one talking and your hands are the ones doing – then you are the verb in your story.

Being better is a way of life, not a means to an end. It is a call to action. It requires us to reflect on our own behavior and then asks us if we’re ready to be the grown up in the room.  To be better means to live by a new set of rules – all the time. Being better means being respectful – to yourself and the world you live in.

Being better means never, ever, for any reason, justifying an act of assholery. Ever. Because being an asshole is not being better.

We can’t get better until we’re no longer afraid of being better – to ourselves and to each other.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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